Finding Your Blog Soulmate.

January 21, 2010 at 9:30 am 25 comments

Hello! This isn’t Chelsea! Now, before you freak out & run away, allow me to introduce myself. Many of you already know me. I’m Lauren From Texas. Please don’t click the little red bubble in the upper left corner (that’s if you’re a Mac; “x” in the upper right if you’re a PC). Instead, stick around & read this lengthy & not very cohesive post. It’s what Chelsea would want you to do.

Not too long ago, Chelsea posted about what it means to be a BFF Friend Forever & opened the floor for questions directed towards her, her husband, & her family. Little did I know that I would be included in this round of questions, so when Chelsea asked me to write a guest post for her, I thought, “What better time to answer the question?!” Actually I thought “Oh crap I have nothing interesting to say & her readers are going to be so disappointed & hate me forever.” But after a dinner of brain food (leftover cheesy french bread & chocolate chip cookies with milk), I decided I CAN DO THIS. So here we go. I’m armed with only my thoughts & feelings. And a glass of Pinot Grigio.

The question came from Chelsea’s friend Lyndsey, who I have never met but am dying to, & who is a new blogger. Check her out here. Here’s her question:

“When did you know that you and chelsea would be Best Blog Friends 4 Ever instead of just Blog friends or Best Blog Friends?”

Great question, Lyndsey. I am going to stretch out my answer as long as I possibly can because A) I like to talk, & B) Because Chelsea told me to write a post & it’s 8:25 the night before she needs it & nothing else is coming to me.

When I started my blog in April 2009, I had no expectations. OK, that’s kind of a lie. I had just figured out that people could become famous by BLOGGING & since I am an English major & have always wanted to be a famous writer, one night I was late for my period & thinking way too much (but not very clearly) & thought, “Hey! I should start (another) blog!” I say another blog because I have had at least 4 blogs since the age of 16, 2 of which are still in existence (and no, you may not read them). So I started a blog and plunged myself into the depths of the blogosphere, saying to myself, “Let’s see what happens.” I’ll tell you what hasn’t happened.

  • My blog hasn’t won any awards. (Yes, I’m still sore from my loss in the 20SB Bootlegger Awards. Never mind the fact that I didn’t know I was a finalist until the day the awards were being announced; I’m a perfectionist & it stings to not win, even if you didn’t know about the contest. That makes no sense so I’m moving on. And clearly, I’m joking.)
  • I haven’t made any money blogging. Unless you count that time a restaurant offered us Happy Hour-priced drinks for the duration of our stay, in exchange for good blog publicity. Let’s see, I saved a couple bucks that night, so I guess you could say my blog has made me SEVERAL NOBLE DOLLARS. You get my point.
  • I have not achieved fame from my blog. Well, one time, at the Pioneer Woman book signing, a girl recognized me from my blog & came up to say hi, but I ended up acting like a huge dork because I was shocked someone reads my blog, had recognized me, and STILL WANTED TO APPROACH ME. (Hi other Lauren from Texas!) My point is, I am not famous.

But you know what has happened since I’ve started my blog? I’ve found a place, a little niche where I can put to use that English degree my parents spent so much money on. I can unleash my creativity, tell funny stories, & make people laugh. And when it comes right down to it, that’s all I ever wanted to do anyway. But possibly the best thing that has happened to me since I started my blog are the PEOPLE I have encountered. When you’re a blogger, you can’t really use the word “met,” because chances are, you haven’t met most of the people you’re talking to. You email, you tweet, & before you know it, you’re telling them your deepest darkest secrets and you feel like they’re your BFF Friend Forever… & quite possibly, they are. It’s not up to me to decide what defines a BFF Friend Forever. Rules like “Before someone can be your friend, you must meet her in real life to make sure she’s a girl & not a 60-year-old pervo with a hatchet” seem to fade away when you have a heart-to-heart email conversation.

I should know, it happened to me.

Chelsea emailed me shortly after I started my blog & we started to correspond. We emailed all the time, & found we had so much in common. We took our relationship to the next level & became Facebook friends. Then, after a few weeks of such correspondence, we decided it was time. To meet.

We met for brunch at a charming place & sat outside. Since it was June in Texas, I sweated my guts out & Chelsea remained cool as a cucumber (probably half from her peach bellini & half because she is a freak who doesn’t feel temperature). I thought, “If this girl still likes me after I am drenched in sweat & my makeup has run down the front of my shirt, this must be real.”

After a brunch date that lasted 4-5 hours, I realized, “I could be friends with this girl. No, I could be blog friends. No, I could be BLOG FRIENDS FOREVER.”

And from that, a title was born: Blog Friends 4Ever.

In going through some old emails, I found this conversation we had shortly after our brunch.

Chelsea: “I wonder what I clicked on that day to find you.”

Lauren: “Probably ‘best blog ever’…. Maybe?”

Chelsea: “That could have been it. Or maybe it was from that eBlogery site where they match you up with your blog soul mate based on compatibility and all sorts of meaningful things. You could view your matches for free… that’s all I remember.”

Lauren: “I filled out that questionnaire. They asked my height, age, and ‘on a scale of 1 to 10, how much do you love food?’ – obviously we were meant to be together.”

In conclusion, dear Roots & Ring readers, friendship is a lot like dating. And blogging is the eHarmony of friendship. For just pennies per month, you too can find your Blog Friend 4Ever.

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25 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Out to Blog. « Lauren From Texas  |  January 21, 2010 at 9:33 am

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  • 2. jenferlouise  |  January 21, 2010 at 9:49 am

    I just assumed y’all had been BFF Friends Forever … forever. Tear. 🙂

  • 3. This Heavenly Life  |  January 21, 2010 at 10:18 am

    Ah, good stuff. But can I just add that I think I have several blogging soul mates? I have unique relationships with all of them, and feel really connected (and loved *sigh*). Is that…promiscuous of me?!

    Good post, L from T, good post.

  • 4. Vanessa  |  January 21, 2010 at 10:28 am

    I love having blogships with my girls. It is fabulous finding friends via blogging, it is such a supportive and loving community!

    Your story is awesome!

  • 5. Erin  |  January 21, 2010 at 10:32 am

    Sign me up!

  • 6. jill  |  January 21, 2010 at 11:12 am

    LOL, quite possibly the best part of this post comes at the end when you guys talk about eBloggery, the friendship counterpart of eHarmony, which guarantees a companion within a year. I’m still waiting to find my BF4E. Obviously I need to be more honest on my eBloggery questionnaire.

  • 7. Tabaitha Kaye  |  January 21, 2010 at 11:23 am

    Great guest post, Lauren! I love the eBloggery as well. I spit my coffee out, when I read that. My son thought it was funny that I did that, so he then spit out his milk. All that to say, I loved this post.

  • 8. Kathleen  |  January 21, 2010 at 11:32 am

    Is the title exclusive? Because I love y’all. Both. And want to be blog friends 4ever.

  • 9. Samantha  |  January 21, 2010 at 12:14 pm

    You did a great job on this post, Lauren! I can’t say I’ve come across a “Best Blog Friend 4 Ever” yet, but the people and support are absolutely amazing. Starting a blog (last April as well) was one of the best decisions I ever made!

  • 10. abby  |  January 21, 2010 at 12:24 pm

    ok, now I feel like I need to find my Blog Friend 4 Ever!

  • 11. zburrows  |  January 21, 2010 at 12:31 pm

    I dont have a Best Blog Friend 4Ever. I have a best friend (chelsea), and a best friend I have never actually met (Lauren).

    On a side note, i actually say “my friend Lauren” sometimes and then I think… “I can say that right… we are friends… maybe not traditional face-to-face friends… but it still counts right?”

    I also have a best friend who doesnt know I call him my best friend but he still is even if he doesnt know it (Frank).

    Loved the post Best Friend I have never actually met!!!!!

  • 12. Southern Gal  |  January 21, 2010 at 12:41 pm

    I don’t have a Best Blog Friend 4ever yet either, but I’ve made some really great bloggy friends. Don’t know what I’d do without them. Thanks for letting us see behind the scenes of a BBFF.

  • 13. Darla  |  January 21, 2010 at 1:45 pm

    Y’all are so sweet. 🙂

  • 14. mom (Nana)  |  January 21, 2010 at 2:19 pm

    zburrows, you will love Lauren and Lauren from Texas, you will love Lyndsey. I can definitely see why Chelsea loves you both!

  • 15. Molly  |  January 21, 2010 at 3:20 pm

    Wonderful guest post…even if I am totally jealous that you get to be BF4E with Chelsea. 🙂

  • 16. Sturgmom  |  January 21, 2010 at 4:34 pm

    I’m so jealous. I need a blog friend 4 ever. I’d just like to meet another blogger (besides PW)!

  • 17. Kristin  |  January 21, 2010 at 4:54 pm

    LOVED this Lauren. I found a bloggy bestie through this too. It was kismet!

  • 18. Lindsay  |  January 21, 2010 at 6:47 pm

    Aww, sweet story! I’ve never met a blogger in real life and it’s on my list of things I must do before I turn 30.

  • 19. Alyssa  |  January 21, 2010 at 10:06 pm

    LOL…great post!

  • 20. Sarah  |  January 21, 2010 at 11:22 pm

    Here’s the thing (this was the exact topic at S’s house last night)…meeting people through blogging is not that much different then meeting people other ways as an adult. You feel them out (I said out, not up) and if you click, it works. I figure in 10 years, people becoming real life besties through blogging will be about as normal as people meeting online to date (which is still a little weird to me, but not unheard of….maybe this was a bad analogy?).

  • 21. Julie D.  |  January 22, 2010 at 1:13 am

    Yeah, my track record is not so great in dating…I don’t think I’d do that well in finding a BBF4E either. I just like reading things that happen in real life. So that doesn’t even get ppl like me to the simple normal blogger friend status since it’s really only one way. This leads me to a question:

    Is there an etiquette in the blog world? Is it rude when someone is a mostly disengaged or uncommunicative fan/reader? Cause we’re out here. What do you think?

  • 22. Ari  |  January 22, 2010 at 2:40 am

    I totally just googled eBloggery, excited to find my match. Unfortunately, there weren’t any matching results. 😦 How will I ever find my BBFF?

  • 23. Leah  |  January 22, 2010 at 4:13 pm

    Lauren, you are such a peach!

  • 24. Stephany  |  January 23, 2010 at 12:02 pm

    This was such a great post! And now I’m going to search for my own Blog Friend 4 Ever. I want one of those!

  • 25. Suburban Sweetheart  |  January 26, 2010 at 2:16 am

    Love this. Still waiting on mine…

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