“What’s Your Story: Part 1”

February 24, 2010 at 8:13 am 23 comments

(Many of you asked me what the story is between Stephen and me. How we met, dated, etc. This is Part 1  of Our Story, written by the wonderful man in my life, Stephen. Enjoy.)

Let me tell you a story about love.  It involves the truly fun time Chelsea and I had getting to know and grow with each other into this thing we’re going to call adulthood (even though we don’t feel like adults really). 

Now to tell you the truth, I never really had a known direction in my life and for the most part still don’t.  But 5 years ago I after busying myself with working, school, dating and just hanging out with friends, I finally decided to follow my heart’s calling and truly get reconnected with a church.  After months of looking, it took one sermon by Brad Cauley to make me commit to the Austin Stone Community Church and there I was, lonely and busying myself with going to church on top of all the other things.

*Now listen, if you are going to church and feel lonely at that church, it’s because of one thing, and I guarantee the guy at the front has been telling you how to fix it the entire time; they do at every church I’ve been to…JOIN A COMMUNITY/SMALL/LIFE GROUP*

I never listened… joining a community group seemed alienating and outside of my comfort zone; but that tug in my heart kept telling me that there was something more to get out of church and that maybe one of these groups would be the way.  Thanks to a job change opportunity that freed up my weeknights, I thought to ask a good friend of mine, who usually knows what’s going on, if he knew of a community group I could join that had no girls in it because I wanted to pursue God and not have girls distracting me from why I was there.  Sure enough, my friend invited me to the ONLY coed college-age community group the church had… and what happened?  I sat there the first night and the only thing I can remember is constantly looking at this girl and thinking, “she has some nice legs.”  (don’t blame me, Chelsea decided to wear cheerleading shorts to a bible study!) 

If you ask Chelsea, she’d say I hit on her the first night with the line “You look familiar, are you taking any government classes this semester?”  BUT I contest this, as she really looked like someone who was in several of my government classes, and if you know me at all, I’m awkward; it just seemed like a good question at the time.  For me, I hit on her come week #2…broke into one of her conversations and made a point to say goodbye to her by name when she left (big for me since I’m terrible at remembering names, honestly I thought her last name was Rosenberg for 2 months). 

And what do I see when I get home that night?  A Facebook friend request!  Little did I know Chelsea also asked other people to be friends at the same time, but at the time I thought she was totally into me.  She even wrote on my wall, “I like you better without the beard”  (I had a beard in my profile pic) and THAT told me that I really made an impression on her with my goodbye ;^)  Actually it didn’t, but it did get us started in talking online. Chelsea confirmed I was taller than her and I confirmed that I liked her for more than her legs.  Within the week we knew we liked each other a lot.

Since we were both in the community group to pursue God, Chelsea didn’t want us to start dating immediately in case it didn’t work out and one of us would have to split from the group due to awkwardness that could occur.  I agreed and laughed to myself, knowing that I wasn’t going to let my membership in any group get in my way, and within a week we were dating!

Now as we grew with our community group, people eventually found out we were dating, but the funny thing was that we were so comfortable together that anyone who met us as a couple thought we were together for years already.  Chelsea’s friend even put me in her phone as “Chelsea’s Husband.” 

It was such a great feeling to be with Chelsea.  There’s the saying that where men fall in love faster, women fall in love deeper; well I would say that’s half-true.  I definitely fell in love with Chelsea even though I didn’t know it yet, you know… still being a kid and all and not knowing what those choices and feelings were.  Chelsea had a realization that she loved me while watching The Family Stone (no relation, she was just thinking about it since the movie’s a love story). 

I would have to say that to this day, Chelsea and I have only gone a total of 7 days without seeing one another since the day we met and I wouldn’t have it any other way.  I know a lot of people don’t have that blessing, but I believe that how Chelsea and I met was a work done by God.  My life worked in a way to make it to a community group that Chelsea was lead to in the same way. 

That is how I came to meet my girlfriend.  Next time I’ll tell you how I made her my wife.

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23 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Amanda  |  February 24, 2010 at 9:26 am

    Your dumb husband brought tears to my eyes. Thanks. 🙂

  • 2. Molly  |  February 24, 2010 at 9:37 am

    Ooh! I love this series!!! Keep it coming, Stephen!

  • 3. Aunt Bonnie  |  February 24, 2010 at 9:45 am

    Good job, Stephen. Though I’ve heard most of this before, it was nice to hear it in your own words. Keep it up. Can’t wait for the next installment:)

  • 4. deiala  |  February 24, 2010 at 9:54 am

    What a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing.

  • 5. DeMo  |  February 24, 2010 at 9:58 am

    I loved this. So sweet!!! Please keep writing.

  • 6. Logan  |  February 24, 2010 at 10:31 am

    You’re welcome. 🙂

    Just kidding. Loved watching this story in realtime.

  • 7. abby  |  February 24, 2010 at 10:37 am

    So sweet! I love hearing Stephen’s perspective. Will we hear it from Chelsea’s perspective too?

  • 8. Samantha  |  February 24, 2010 at 11:01 am

    Aww, what a cute story!

  • 9. Rachel  |  February 24, 2010 at 11:25 am

    So cute! Great job Stephen!

  • 10. Darla  |  February 24, 2010 at 11:42 am

    Oh my gosh, I LOVED that!

  • 11. rachieannie  |  February 24, 2010 at 12:11 pm

    Yup, I agree with everyone else! It’s great! Love it!

  • 12. kelly  |  February 24, 2010 at 12:49 pm

    you are still in my phone as chelsea’s husband!

  • 13. Nora  |  February 24, 2010 at 1:04 pm

    Love that Stephen wrote it; how adorable. Can’t wait to hear Part two. =)

  • 14. Kari  |  February 24, 2010 at 2:13 pm


  • 15. DebbieQ  |  February 24, 2010 at 2:22 pm

    Oh that is so sweet!

  • 16. mom (Nana) Alice Rosenhagen  |  February 24, 2010 at 2:28 pm

    Heard most of this but not quite like that – nicely put, my dear
    son-in-law! Can’t wait for part 2 but I think I know where this is headed. 🙂

  • 17. Taryn E  |  February 24, 2010 at 4:24 pm

    Very sweet! 🙂

    (However, please remember this is a family blog, so make sure the inevitable Part 3 is G-rated!!)

  • 18. Yet to be named Grandma (Maureen)  |  February 24, 2010 at 4:30 pm

    I’ve heard this story but never seen it so beautifully written. I do remember you telling me about Chelsea, or at the time “this girl I met in community group who I instant message with a lot.” I knew at that moment Chelsea or “this girl” was going to be the one for you. And even more certain when I met her the first time. Dad and I were just talking on Sunday how incredibly blessed we are to have Chelsea as a part of our family!

  • 19. Uncle Rory & Aunt chris  |  February 24, 2010 at 4:51 pm

    We think this YOUNG Generation has done the best job of writting such beautiful things down for us all to share and enjoy. Just think how wonderful it will be for your Children to look back and see the words That DAD -( father )has written… Great job. Keep sharing with us all the sweet words, beautiful words from your heart.

  • 20. Charise Sprengel  |  February 24, 2010 at 6:36 pm

    Chelsea, I’d keep him!! 😉 By the way- shame on you for wearing cheerleader shorts to Bible study!!! What were you thinking???

  • 21. Lisa H.  |  February 24, 2010 at 8:31 pm

    Oh, Stephen!!! That is so beautiful! You are right. You are blessed….and so is Chelsea. Your marriage is definitely a “God thing”. Love you both!

  • 22. Fuegita  |  February 24, 2010 at 10:38 pm

    awww, that’s soooo sweet.

  • 23. Southern Gal  |  February 24, 2010 at 11:33 pm

    This is so sweet.

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